Multiple sclerosis challenges ranging from misdiagnoses and obtaining work accommodations, to advocating for chronic illness causes and writing from the patient perspective were chief among the many issues I recently discussed with two podcasters.
Southern California’s Dr. Brandon Beaber, a neurologist specializing in multiple sclerosis, chatted with me recently for his podcast about my new book, Uncomfortably Numb 2: An Anthology for Newly-Diagnosed MS Patients, touching on topics like when or whether to tell people you have MS and what lessons I’ve learned since I was diagnosed in 2014. Spoiler alert: There’ve been a lot of them.
Meanwhile, podcaster RA Cook, a fellow author and western Massachusetts native, hosted me as a guest on her podcast, Well Done You. Our wide-ranging conversation addressed topics like writing and teaching journalism at the university level, to being a multiple sclerosis patient and advocating for issues facing those living with chronic illnesses.
I was honored to be a part of both of their podcasts.
MS Activist and Influencer Jodi Dwyer said the new multiple sclerosis anthology Uncomfortably Numb 2 would’ve been “an amazing resource” had she had it in her hands when she was first diagnosed.
That was the goal of this sequel to my MS memoir. It was to create a guide that I wish I’d had when I received my own diagnosis in 2014. Comprised of stories from patients with varying stages of MS, Uncomfortably Numb 2 includes stories from a woman who was diagnosed as a teen and a neurologist who treats adult and pediatric MS patients.
I’m thrilled that the sequel to my 2020 medical memoir is now on sale. Uncomfortably Numb 2: An Anthology for Newly-Diagnosed MS Patients tells the stories of a variety of multiple sclerosis patients who are in varying stages of the autoimmune disease. A neurologist who specializes in MS and pediatric neurology, as well as a National MS Society state advocacy professional’s stories are also included.
Kirkus Reviews gave it a shoutout:
This follow-up to O’Brien’s memoir, Uncomfortably Numb (2020), follows several multiple sclerosis patients and experts on their emotional journeys. It’s easy to see shared experiences across the many narratives; many of the people presented here have faced similar challenges with aspects of their illness, from dealing with insurance and prescription drug cost issues to other people’s judgement of using the Americans with Disabilities Act parking when their symptoms aren’t visible to others. A project that many will find relatable.
The president and CEO of the National Multiple Sclerosis Society, Dr. Tim Coetzee was kind enough to write the foreword in which he says, “This book is essential readding for anyone who wants to fully understand the journey of MS from the perspective of those living with the disease.”
It was a fraught and contentious atmosphere in which to be visiting the Hill. A few of our volunteer MS Activists — many of whom have MS themselves — reported being met with disrespectful staffers, including one who complained that he was “tired of all the lies” when it came to their Medicaid pitch.
During the training portion of our conference, MS Society volunteers heard from Evan Conant, a full-time employed husband whose wife has severe MS to the point where she needs round-the-clock care in their home. They have private health insurance through his work, but were shelling out over $70,000 annually for her care, which he said was financially unsustainable. They learned of a Medicaid waiver program which enables people who demonstrate tremendous need to be able to pay monthly premiums (if your state allows it) in order to get assistance with medical costs. In Conant’s case, after three years of rigorous vetting, he said his family was allowed to buy into the program to provide four hours of health aide coverage so he could continue working and his wife was safe in their home. This is the kind of story that was met with disregard for some folks (as examples of “waste, fraud, and abuse in the system”), whereas, historically, MS Activists have said, they’ve been warmly welcomed by lawmakers because multiple sclerosis issues, and the MS Society as a whole, are nonpartisan.
However my Massachusetts crew (pictured in the photos above), was fortunate in that all of our meetings — with US Senator Elizabeth Warren and Ed Markey’s staffers, as well as with congressional staffers from our various districts — went well. Staffers were uniformly understanding and kind, even if some were palpably stressed by what’s currently transpiring in Washington, D.C.
Will volunteer MS patients speaking up for MS research help? I know that without prior medical research into possible MS treatments, the medicines upon which I rely to cope with my MS symptoms and to prevent more spinal and brain lesions from forming would likely have NOT been developed. My life could look much different. Who knows if I’d be working, or writing, or volunteering. And for working folks whose MS is severe and requires services they can’t afford, sharing their stories with people who control the funding mechanisms of government, could, perhaps move a person or two. Sometimes, that’s all you need.
Advocating for policies and laws needed by those with chronic illnesses, like MS, is a subject I cover in my forthcoming book,Uncomfortably Numb 2 (available for pre-order). This is a relatively recent (since 2022) endeavor for me, this advocating business, but it’s left me feeling as though, even though I can’t control my what ultimately happens with my MS, I can use my voice to try to make the world a bit better for people with chronic illnesses. It also makes me feel less alone in the fight. We’re stronger, the saying goes, when we fight together.
While I’ve already announced the upcoming February release of my second novel — Louie on the Rocks, a dark comedy set in central Massachusetts about a dysfunctional family influenced by Trump era politics, circa 2019 — I can now proudly announce my second 2025 book.
Uncomfortably Numb 2: An Anthology for Newly-Diagnosed MS Patients is slated for publication in May 2025 by Wyatt-MacKenzie, which published my 2020 medical memoir, Uncomfortably Numb, about the life-altering impact of my MS diagnosis.
This nonfiction book will feature the stories of MS patients at varying stages of the incurable autoimmune disease of the brain and spinal cord, and of MS advocates who work to better the world for multiple sclerosis patients. Additionally, I share new stories about how I have morphed from being a stunned, newly-diagnosed patient to an MS Activist who lobbies state and federal lawmakers on behalf of the National Multiple Sclerosis Society.
It’ll be quite the tonal shift to move from promoting a dark comedy about an alcoholic MAGA dad squaring off against his progressive, bookseller daughter just weeks after the presidential inauguration, to discussing the experiences of MS patients. I hope you’ll join me on what promises to be one bizarre ride.