In the predawn hours on the day after the election, I processed my angst through my writing. I submitted this piece to GirlTalkHQ and they graciously decided to publish it.
If you’re feeling the way I’m feeling, you likely need to cope with your grief, your anger, your dismay. This is for you.
Here’s how the piece begins:
They chose the rapist.
They empowered the serial, sexual abuser.
The one who famously values women only for how sexually attractive they are to him.
The one who hand-picked Supreme Court justices who then stole reproductive rights from American women, rights they’d previously sworn were safe.
The one who bragged about that revocation of reproductive rights, how he was responsible for turning the clock back fifty years.Who selected a running mate who assesses females based on their reproductive status and their usefulness for the tasks of bearing, raising, and caring for children.
Supporters of this presidential ticket openly laughed about how their opponent — a former prosecutor-state attorney general-US senator-vice president — was a prostitute who gave blow jobs in order to get ahead, that she worked street corners.
They called their competitor stupid. A bitch. A hoe. The c-word.
Feeling stressed out about the US presidential election? Experiencing tension with friends or family members? You’re not alone.
@girltalkhq has published a sneak peek preview of my Feb. 2025 darkly comedic novel, Louie on the Rocks, about how Trump era politics exacerbated the estrangement between a retired MAGA dad and his progressive Millennial daughter.
Set in central Massachusetts, readers hear directly from a trio of narrators: Father Louie, daughter Lulu, and recently-deceased wife/mother Helen. Things get, shall we say, profane and heated.
Ten years ago today, I was discharged from a Boston hospital and officially received my MS diagnosis. My husband Scott and I left the doctor’s suburban Boston area office and drove directly to Firefly’s, which served our son Casey’s favorite BBQ. It was his 13th birthday and we wanted him to bring him some of his beloved dishes because we NEEDED to celebrate.
Let me back up a bit and set the stage …
In the preceding week, my family of five had taken a much-needed trip to Los Angeles. It had been four months since my 65-year-old mother had died from a fast-moving cancer. It had been a couple weeks since my 67-year-old father was admitted to the hospital and then to a rehab center to regain his strength. It’d been weeks since my young nephew had been treated and released from Boston Children’s Hospital after what was believed to have been a pancreatitis attack. It hadn’t been very fun around my house. We wanted to flee Massachusetts, so we sought a journey to the land of make-believe, hoping to outrun our bad luck.
Ha, said fate.
On the first morning in our Air-BNB, I received a stilted phone call from my Boston-based neurologist. The MRI I’d had of my brain weeks earlier — the one about whose results I’d been hounding the neurologist’s staff for in the days leading up to the trip — showed I had new lesions and a couple of them were actively inflamed. The doc wanted me to see him immediately. Irritated, because this was the exact situation I’d been trying to avoid, I told him we were in LA for 10 days. He scheduled an appointment for the Tuesday after we returned home. He never officially said I had MS, never told me to avoid heat or humidity, and didn’t give me any advice for how to proceed until I got home. He must’ve thought it was evident that the presence of multiple lesions meant I had MS, but Scott and I decided, since we were in the land of make-believe we were going to make believe this call never happened.
Until the Hollywood Bowl. As comedian Jack Black took the stage to emcee a pops performance of music from Pixar films at the famed outdoor venue, the days spent in hot and humid conditions caught up with me. I became violently ill. Not only was I sick to my stomach, but I was dizzy, weak, saw flashing lights in the periphery of my vision, and couldn’t really walk. Since we were seated at the top level of the facility, staffers had to locate a wheelchair and in order to take me down to the medical station on the ground floor. My then-15-year-old twins — eyes wide with worry — “watched” over me while Scott and Casey, then-12, ran to fetch our rented vehicle. They arrived just as fireworks were being detonated in thunderous fashion, the explosions echoing against the walls, creating an ominous, end-of-the-world-like soundtrack.
Weakened, I spent the next day resting, but rallied to attend an evening Anaheim Angels’ game for which we already had tickets. Scott and I pretended the whole thing was either food poisoning or a result of me accidentally eating something that didn’t agree with my dairy allergy. In the ensuing days, we went to see the famed British football team Manchester United play the LA Galaxy at the Rose Bowl, goofed around in Madame Tussauds‘ wax museum, and visited the Ronald Reagan presidential library in Simi Valley.
On the day we were supposed to return to reality in Boston, I experienced an attack like the one at the Hollywood Bowl. Only worse. I was again sick to my stomach. Again, I was weak and could barely walk. My daughter said I was lying on the floor and so out of it that it seemed like I was drugged. The fact that our rented Santa Monica bungalow had no AC and that my damaged brain — which MS had rendered incapable of handling heat and humidity — couldn’t handle the weather never occurred to us. Then again, in that moment, I couldn’t hold a cogent thought in my head as my family packed up the Air-BNB and Scott called my neurologist to get some medication so I could board a plane back to Boston.
Two days later, on a Sunday, I woke in my own bedroom to a third attack worse than the preceding two. I couldn’t stop vomiting. I was weak. I couldn’t walk. I saw stars in my eyes. Nine-one-one was called. I was transported from a small local hospital then transferred to a large Boston facility where my doctor worked. I kept trying to get the neurologists at the hospital to contact their colleague, the one who called me that first morning in LA. But they didn’t. And I didn’t receive any treatment to stop the attack — which would’ve been IV steroids, something I received the following week.
On that Tuesday morning, Casey’s 13th birthday, I was released from the hospital and went straight to the neurologist’s office, just outside of Boston. It was there where he looked surprised when I asked him if I had MS. Clearly, he thought it should’ve been obvious that I did. He told me we had to decide what kind of medicine I’d take to try and slow down the disease progression but, in the meantime, we scheduled another MRI, which would show the presence of even more angry and inflamed lesions that would lead to three days of outpatient, steroid IV treatment. Scott and I left the neurologist’s appointment facing a new and uncertain landscape. But we had one immediate concern: Casey’s birthday.
Since my hospitalization, our dear friend Gretchen had been taking our three kids out, feeding them, and even brought the twins shopping so we’d have gifts to give Casey. Gretchen also pulled together the ingredients for Casey’s favorite birthday dessert, the lava cake similar to the one The Rainforest Cafe used to serve, only much sloppier. While Gretchen had the gifts and dessert all ready for us when we got home, Scott and I ordered barbecue from the car. Casey, who’d spent his 13th birthday hanging with Gretchen’s younger son, was thrilled with his presents, with the BBQ, and with the cake, and declared it the “best birthday ever.”
Now, that kid is 23. And he’s riding in a Bike MS event in Maine. He’s trying to raise money for the National Multiple Sclerosis Society — for which I serve on as a trustee on my local board and as a volunteer advocate. It’s an organization which has financially supported nearly every new development in the MS field. On his fundraising page, Casey wrote that he’s participating in the Great Maine Getaway because he is “inspired by my mother’s courageous battle with multiple sclerosis.” He added, “Throughout her life, she has not only navigated the challenges of MS but has also become a beacon of strength and education within our community.” He also said a bunch of other really nice things about his old mom. *Blushing.*
I’m proud of him, as well as of my nearly-26-year-old son Jonah, and my husband Scott, who are participating in their second Bike MS event together. But since my diagnosis date is so closely tied to Casey’s birthday, I’m plugging his donation page. If you have someone in your life who struggles with MS, if you’d like to see a world without MS, please consider contributing to Casey’s bike ride.
It’s been 10 years. My symptoms may have worsened but my hope has not dimmed.
Some 700 walkers converged upon Worcester Technical High School on a warm Saturday morning in late April to raise awareness and money for multiple sclerosis research.
At Walk MS: Worcester, I had the privilege of hosting the event — using a finicky, hand-held mic which didn’t like the wind — where I was honored to spotlight a local woman’s story about her diagnosis of MS in the middle of the COVID-19 pandemic.
Tanisha Stevens, her husband, her two young daughters, her sister, and her best friend took to the stage as we celebrated her strength, her perseverance, and her loving circles of support. Circles were the big theme this year, hence pictures of people holding circles on plastic sticks: Orange for those with MS, green for those who love someone with MS, and yellow for those who work to support the cause.
Participants — some of whom dressed in very colorful, creative attire including orange tutus — said they felt a sense of camaraderie and really liked the message that no one is in this alone.
A week later, under mildly threatening skies, I hosted the Walk MS: Longmeadow event at Longmeadow High School in western Massachusetts. As someone who grew up in The 4-1-3 (the area code), I was so pleased to run into people who not only knew colleagues of mine, but also folks who knew my mom, Judy O’Brien, when she was the manager of two stores in Northampton, Mass. and appeared in regular “Wine Mother” segments on a local radio station.
I even met the effervescent, take-no-BS Judy Potter (second down on the right in the collage above) who pulled from her purse the op/ed I wrote which she’d ripped out of the paper that morning. After reading the piece — where I compared Taylor Swift’s “I Can Do It With a Broken Heart” to pretending all is well when you have MS — she said she, someone who’s had MS for decades, had to meet me. Turns out, Judy’s friends with the first editor I worked with at The Republican, Cynthia Simison, who later went on to run the whole operation, becoming the paper’s first woman to hold the post.
While the Longmeadow crowd was smaller than Worcester’s, it felt supportive and enthusiastic nonetheless, something I experienced acutely when an adorable, beefy bulldog practically knocked me over with excitement as I pet him just a few feet beyond the finish line.
The UMass Journalism Department graciously invited my former UMass/Massachusetts Daily Collegian pal, the award-winning writer Felice Cohen, and me to talk about our experiences writing memoir.
In late April, Felice told attendees that her family read early drafts of her UMass-based memoir, Half In — which reveals her 1990s love affair with a much older woman — and said they were supportive of her relating the truth of her experience. She said she heavily relied on the journals she kept during that time to refresh her memory about specific events and conversations, which, in the book, are very detailed. Felice is currently working on what she called a “reverse memoir” using letters she’s received throughout her life.
I, meanwhile, totally put my husband Scott on the spot and asked him what he thought about being portrayed and quoted in my memoir, Uncomfortably Numb, which traces the first several years of my life with multiple sclerosis. His reply? He trusts me (!) to tell my “truth” since I’ve been writing about my life –and, consequently, him — ever since we met when we were undergrads.
It was wild to look around the state-of-the-art Journalism Hub and to later visit the freakishly clean Collegianoffices — which, years ago, moved out of its original location in the windowless Campus Center basement. Gone were the days of that smelly, lumpy sofa in the Journalism Department and of messy student newspaper offices with stacks of papers and all manner of wires snaking up the walls and across floors like out-of-control ivy.
Another major difference on the Amherst campus? The dining hall. Not necessarily the halls themselves, but the food within them which is now top notch, a far cry from when the chicken cutlet sandwiches were referred to as “chicken pucks” and the highlight of the week was when fried French toast sticks were on the menu. It’s no wonder why, when I asked my younger son who graduated last year, where we should go out to eat and he said, “The dining hall.”
Looking forward to heading back to Amherst with my former college newspaper colleague, Felice Cohen — Collegian alums forever! — to speak with journalism students about journalism, writing, and memoir.
So … yeah … I’ve been a tad incommunicado here on this blog where I said I’d be chronicling my nascent Liverpool fandom. I’ll share with you some of the reasons why because I like to hold myself accountable:
I spent December wrapping up the fall semester and grading dozens of submissions from students in my undergraduate journalism class and two master’s of fine arts classes. When I completed that task, I revised three syllabi and three sets of online course modules for the spring 2024 semesters for three courses.
Additionally, there was the whole Christmas holiday prep — buying presents for the family and spending hours wrapping, planning the menus for two holiday dinners, cooking/baking, cleaning the house, and squeezing in a mid-December trip to visit my daughter Abbey and her boyfriend Anthony in their Bronx apartment.
In addition to helping my senior citizen father with his weekly medicine, paying his bills, and taking him to his medical appointments, I had meetings for the National Multiple Sclerosis Society (where I’m a member of the local chapter’s Board of Trustees, as well as an MS Activist, which means I lobby state and federal officials for bills which help those with chronic illnesses). I also did some more research for my work-in-progress about a Massachusetts Millennial minister, and, this is my low-key announcement, started working with a publisher to prep my second novel for a February 2025 publication date.
So … yeah … maybe taking on this British football project was a tad too ambitious. I realized early in December that I just would not have the opportunity to pull together blog posts for each game I watched. And I did watch all but one Liverpool game since I last blogged about the Reds. (I missed the Dec. 6, 2023 game against Sheffield United — which Liverpool won 1-nil — because there were too many people logged onto our streaming account. We’ve remedied the situation by purchasing our Liverpool-fan son Jonah an online streaming subscription for Christmas.) I watched eight games during December and one on New Year’s Day in my Boston area home, in our family’s Cape Cod place, en route to and in church, at Sean’s Bar & Kitchen in New York City, and at an in-law’s house during a holiday event. I took notes while watching most of these contests, but lost the ones I jotted on a Sean’s Bar & Kitchen napkin.
The Reds have compiled an impressive record during the past 10 games, winning seven, tying two, and losing one, the Europa group league game vs USG, which my Chelsea-fan son told me didn’t matter because Liverpool was advancing out of group play anyway, so I’d say they had a good December, in spite of my blogging lapse.
While I’ll post some highlights from my notes below, one question has been haunting me over the over-packed month of December: How can fans possibly keep up with all these games? Do they watch all of these games or some of them?
I, for example, don’t watch every Boston Red Sox game, given that they have 162 of them a season, and I still call myself a fan. I think I’ve been unduly influenced by my Chelsea-fan son who’s of the mind that only real fans watch every football game. (Yes, he’s employed.) I now realize that it’s unlikely that I’ll be able to blog about every game, and that’s okay. I’ll still watch as many as I can, taking notes when I can, and posting as I can.
As a British football newbie, I still find all these concurrent tournaments — EFL, Europa, never mind players leaving to play for their national teams’ continental football tournaments (like Mo Salah leaving Liverpool to participate in the Africa Cup of Nations for much of January) — befuddling. I’m unaccustomed to trying to balance all of the competitions in my mind. I think following just the Premier League would be simpler, but my Chelsea-mad son has strongly implied that would be very “plastic” of me. And, God knows, I don’t wanna be plastic.
I want you all to know that I was so very dedicated to this project that I watched Liverpool take on Brentford on Nov. 12 at the end of a trip to the humid, overheated hellscape that is Florida (the weather didn’t get along well with my severe multiple sclerosis-heat sensitivity) as I sat in the car my husband Scott and I rented, while I sat in the airport, while I dragged my super-fatigued ass through said airport, and then as I sat my ass on an early-ish Delta flight back to Boston. The only parts of the game I missed were when I went through airport security and during the time it took to get settled in my seat and find the game on the plane’s channel guide.
In spite of my MS fatigue and mobility issues — as well as the fact that I hadn’t yet had any coffee — I was quite impressed with myself for making it a point to not only watch the game, but to also take some pretty thorough notes. The first thing that struck me as I tuned into the contest on my phone was that the energy thousands of miles and an ocean away on the Anfield pitch was the polar opposite of what I was feeling. Once we got to the airport, Scott dropped me off so he could return the rental car. I dragged our luggage inside and plopped myself onto seats in front of the Delta counters.
Early on in the game, the teeny tiny little figures of Virgil van Dijk and Mo Salah on my phone’s screen teamed up to make a series of plays that looked impressive, but didn’t yield any goals. Diogo Jota was as chippy with Brentford players as I felt toward the Sunshine State, eager to get out of an area where the weather literally affected my damaged brain and made me feel ill nearly the entire time I was there. Darwin Nunez, channeling the energy of two dozen espressos, managed to emerge from traffic in front of the Brentford Bees’ goal in the 22nd minute and land it in the back of the net. Alas. He was offside. Six minutes later, Nunez executed this amazing backwards-over-his–head kick (see below) that also sunk. But. Again. He was declared off side. When, a minute later, two Brentford players got tagged with yellow cards and Liverpool blew a free kick, an announcer said, “Nothing breaking for a Liverpool player yet.”
By the 37th minute, Scott walked through the airport doors, I handed him an earbud, and we joined the security line just in time to watch Joel Matip receive a warning from an official for colliding into a Brentford player and then get a yellow card for complaining. (It occurred to me that I was jealous of the officials’ power to walk around issuing cards to people who make with stupid complaints. That was be amazing.) Meanwhile, the Anfield chanted, “Bullshit,” while Scott and I argued about whether Matip deserved the card. If my Chelsea-mad son had been there, I’m certain he would’ve been very black-and-white about it, officiously telling me that Matip complained, complaining’s against the rules, therefore he deserved the yellow card. However he was back at home taking care of our two dogs which, he realized, isn’t so easy.
Just before Scott and I dumped our belongings onto the Transportation Security Administration’s (TSA) conveyor belts – I experienced a pang of worry about the safety of my laptop (the one on which I’m typing this very post) in the hands of Floridian TSA agents because, I suddenly remembered it bore a rainbow sticker saying, “Say gay, do crime” on it to protest Florida’s “Don’t Say Gay” law. (One TSA agent, to my shock, told me she liked the sticker.) – Mo Salah scored his 199th English football goal via a beautiful backward pass from Nunez. At the half it was 1-nil.
By the time Scott and I were able to return to the game, it was the 54th minute and officials were using VAR (video assistant referee … it’s a British phrase) to determine if Wataru Endo should get a red card for a slide-tackle where his studs wound up on top of a Brentford player’s foot/leg. However I didn’t totally hear most of the announcers’ commentary because I was wearing one ear bud (Scott had the other one) and there was incessant Charlie Brown’s-teacher-blathering from the gate attendants on the public address system. They’d overbooked our flight and were begging people to take the $500 gift card for another flight. How rude of them to talk over the Prem announcers!
Salah sunk his 200th British football goal in the 62nd minute but there was a question about whether Konstantinos Tsimikas was out-of-bounds when he passed the ball to Salah. (Reader: he was not.)
Both Scott and I shouted, “Wow” when Brentford’s goalie, David Raya, made an extraordinary save, looking like Superman as he went airborne. Minutes later, we again became noisy when Jota scored a bomb of a goal into the top, upper-right side of the goal, demonstrating “controlled strength,” an announcer said. No one in our seating area seemed to notice, particularly while this tiny, gray-black shaggy dog in a red harness was frolicking around the seating area. (I know I wasn’t the only one hoping the hound would be a silent traveler. On our way down to Florida, someone brought a dog who was clearly unhappy and barked for an extended period.)
Scott and I missed 14 minutes of the game due to the boarding process and, when we found the correct station on the seat-back TV (see above), the score was still 3-nil Liverpool, as it would remain for the rest of the match, including its six minutes of extra time. As the whistle blew, I heard Anfield filling with The Standells’ Boston-centric “Dirty Water,” the 1966 song usually played at Fenway Park after the Boston Red Sox win a game. Have they played this song all season and I never noticed? Did they start to play this after the Fenway Sports Group purchased Liverpool? (I shall explore these questions in a future post.)
International break, then a Nov. 25, 2023 draw with Man City
So, hear me out. I’m preemptively making excuses for my Nov. 25 mistake. While I was so proud of my valiant effort to make sure I saw as much of the Liverpool-Brentford game as I could even though I was traveling, I kind of fell on my face when it came to the 7:30 a.m. Liverpool game against Manchester City. I only saw half the game because I overslept. *Ducks to avoid the tomatoes being thrown at my head.*
I woke up at 8:20 and it was already halftime and Man City was up 1-nil. Ugh. Blame it on the two days of cooking before Thanksgiving dinner at my house and dessert at my brother’s. Blame it on spending nearly three hours on the following day watching and singing along with Taylor Swift’s Eras Tour movie with my daughter Abbey. I was beaten like the dozens of eggs we used during that week. (Bad mom joke, I know.) I arrived in the family room looking like a zombie, or, as my youngest son would say, like I need another hour of sleep. Jonah, who was staying over for a few days for the holiday, was already in the family room, while Scott was listening to the game in the adjacent kitchen as he prepared more stuffing because our family was having our second Thanksgiving dinner with his side of the family later that afternoon. Abbey, who came down with a head cold and missed Thanksgiving Part II, was watching the game in her bed.
Maybe it was my fuzzy-headedness, but as I watched the very physical play of Man City, I was captivated by the dude who looked like a Bond movie villain with slicked-back blond hair and grimace — Erling Haaland — who kept getting into tussles with Liverpool players, including one with Trent Alexander-Arnold that led to a free kick, which failed. Man City players were swarming Liverpool like annoying, powder blue gnats. And THEY aren’t the ones who have an insect nickname. (Their tenacity reminded me of the Roy Kent chant on Ted Lasso: “He’s here! He’s there! He’s every fucking where! Roy Kent!”)
The first thing I said out loud about the game came in the 67th minute when I asked if I’d remembered correctly that Liverpool usually fares poorly at early-morning matches. The Chelsea-mad son, who’d recently joined us in the family room, confirmed my memory saying that, yes, in the earlier matches, “They normally suck.”
One minute later … controversy. Man City scored a goal, but only after a player grabbed and held onto the shoulder of Liverpool goaltender Alisson Becker. Our family room descended into debate as some said the goal was legit and others disagreeing. The announcers were clearly in the “it’s a goal” camp. But they lost that argument.
Liverpool tied it up in the 80th with an Alexander-Arnold line-drive into the net after which he stood still and laid a single index finger across his lips to shush the Man City fans (see above), causing Jonah to leap off the couch, pump his balled right fist, and then high-five Scott and me. This set off a round of barking from our 12-pound caffeine-on-legs Jack Russell terrier who is offended by cheering or shouting of any kind. (Dude’s a super-sensitive soul, even though he murders fuzzy creatures like chipmunks and bunnies for sport.)
Liverpool Coach Jurgen Klopp’s substitutions at the 85th minute – bringing in Endo and Harvey Elliott and sending Nunez and Alexis MacAllister to the bench – yielded this gem from my Chelsea-fan son: “Endo and Elliott? How to lose the game 101? What are you smoking, Klopp? That’s not going to end well.”
Scott shook his head. “Endo scares me.”
“Yeah,” Chelsea boy said, “that’s what I said.”
Three yellow cards – two for Liverpool, one for Man City – followed a couple more concerning plays involving Becker, including on where a Man City player shoved him into the net after he grabbed the ball out of the air. As Becker fell to the ground in the 97th (!) minute, clutching the back of his right thigh, our living room fell silent at the prospect of an injured Becker.
“Oh, you’re getting relegated,” declared the Chelsea fan.
However, Becker eventually got back in goal, just as Haaland and his blond hair headed the ball (above) that, luckily, didn’t make its way into the net, leaving the score 1-1.
“All right!” shouted Jonah when the whistle blew. “I’m actually happy with a draw!”
The Boston-area literary magazine Pangyrus recently published a braided essay I wrote about the impact of being severely allergic to food containing dairy products. The incident around which the piece is constructed was my accidental March 2023 ingestion of some kind of dairy product in spite of ordering an oat milk latte and a vegan burrito (presumably dairy-free) at an upscale Seattle coffee shop. My rapid consumption led to a trip to the ER.
Ironically, later that afternoon, I had been slated to attend a session at the writers’ conference about writing about one’s disabilities. I was most looking forward to meeting writer Sandra Beasley, someone whose work has delved into her life-altering and life-threatening food allergies. Sadly, I was sitting in an ER bay with epinephrine and steroids flowing through my veins when Sandra started speaking on her panel. I had to later watch her session online from the safety of my Boston area home.
Here’s how the Pangyrus essay begins:
A black bulldog, strapped into a red harness, peers over its person’s shoulder and stares at me. We’re in a line at a small, indie coffee shop, where I’m jonesing for some of that famous Seattle coffee. The bulky canine in front of me, indifferently sniffing the air once I become a boring subject to observe, is likely hoping for a morsel of some of the baked goods the scents of which are subtly threaded through the heavy coffee aroma.
A New Englander, I’m a regular at my local Dunkin’ Donuts, although I occasionally go to Starbucks to splurge for an oat milk latte. Most mornings, I use my Keurig machine to brew two cups of coffee, hoping that the caffeine will force my brain to focus, like when you need to reboot a laptop. Control. Alt. Delete.
This coffee shop near Lake Union, not far from one of the several Google office buildings in the city, is brimming with Millennials and Gen Zers, many in running gear and coated with a thin sheen of perspiration. The room is loud as benign chatter bounces off the spartan walls. I feel the sound in my chest. Scott and I — early Gen Xers — definitely feel our age.
To read the rest of the essay in which I experience anaphylactic shock — see the pics above of me in the ER AFTER I’d been injected with medications, when the swelling around my eyes had lessened and I was able to breath easier — click here.
How on earth is a Premier League fan supposed to live life — work, cleanse one’s body, feed it on occasion, and, oh, I dunno, sleep a wee bit — when there are all of these games? My God! I simply cannot keep up.
I missed my very first Liverpool Premier League game — the Liverpool-Luton Town draw on Nov. 5, featuring Luis Diaz’s header goal and the flashing of his heartbreaking white tee, “Libertad Para Papa” beneath his jersey for his kidnapped father – because I had the nerve to be traveling at the time. I can hear my Chelsea-mad son’s voice ringing now in my head as I type these words: Plastic fan. Not a true football supporter. (But keep in mind, he only has to take care of himself, which largely consists of going to work, the gym, and Chick-fil-A or Chipotle. I’m sure he would never schedule travel when Chelsea was playing.)
So if you’d like to stop reading and dismiss this entire British football fan odyssey as “performative,” be my guest. I maintain, however, that it’s okay to miss a game now and still call oneself a football fan. Maybe that makes me a phony. Whatever. I’ll own it.
But back to my point: Why do there have to be Premier League games (one game a weekend) AND international play for the Europa League AND have an English Football League (EFL) competition for the Carabao Cup … CONCURRENTLY?
This last competition, the Carabao Cup, befuddles me because the Premier League is already an English football league where 20 teams compete against one another twice each season. Why the hell do they have to compete with MORE British teams? I’m well aware – thanks Welcome to Wrexham, my Chelsea-fan son and his girlfriend Jess – that there’s an abundance of English leagues (see graphic) and that every year, a few teams move up a league (promotion) or down a league (relegation). But that amount of interplay between leagues is apparently insufficient. WE. NEED. MORE. (Reader: No we don’t.)
Enter the 63-year-old English Football League competition for the Carabao Cup – which doesn’t sound at all British but it’s named after its energy drink producer-sponsor: The Premier League teams compete against their own league’s clubs as well as teams from lower leagues in a seven-round knockout contest. According to the EFL website: “Premier League clubs enter the competition in Round Two with clubs that have qualified for the Champions League or Europa League joining in Round Three. The competition culminates in a final at Wembley Stadium, with the winner qualifying for the subsequent season’s Europa League.” (Okay, my head is spinning.)
And these Carabao Cup games occur at weird times. I was not expecting, for example, that on a random Wednesday (Nov. 1), a Liverpool game would be taking place, in the middle of the workday. A routine morning check of my social media feeds — which include ample Liverpool and Premier League accounts — informed me that there was a 3:45 p.m. game vs Bournemouth that day. (*Bournemouth is a team Liverpool beat 3-1 in August in the Prem and are slated to play again on Jan. 21.*) I was in the middle of preparing for a writing course I teach on Wednesday nights and had to scramble to see if I could get access to our ESPN+ account or whether there was a limit as to how many people could access it at any given time. The fact that I was able to log in means either that there’s no limit or that the other four members of my family were doing other things … like bad football fans. (I didn’t text my football-mad son to ask him because I didn’t want him to know I was unaware of this scheduled match.)
The Carabao Cup game featured torrential downpours. Everyone on the pitch, including the Reds in their lime green and white kits, looked like they’d rather be anywhere else. Liverpool took the early lead with a Harvey Elliott shot on goal that was deflected by the Bournemouth goalie only to be drilled to the back of the net on the rebound by Cody Gatkpo. Early in the second half, Bournemouth evened it up with a goal from Justin Kluivert for whom announcers said this was his first in English football.
While working to create lively and engaging slides for my writing students on one half of the screen, the rainy EFL game played on, ending in a 2-1 win after a Darwin Nunez goal (that dude is on fire these days).
I totally missed Liverpool’s Sunday, Nov. 5 Premier League 1-1 game against Luton Town four days later. (Liverpool had been expected to best “lowly Luton Town,” as Reuters referred to them. Yikes.) I haven’t told my Chelsea-fan son that I missed this game either lest he chastise me for choosing travel over football.
To eliminate future scheduling surprises, I’ve now entered the entire, godforsaken Liverpool schedule into my calendar and empowered my phone to annoy the piss out of me with reminders when kick-off is slated to begin.
Meredith OBrien 